MY BOYFRIEND CAN’T TELL WHEN ANOTHER GIRL FLIRTS …OR IS THAT BS?
This has happened more than once so it can’t be a fluke, but my boyfriend plays dumb and pretends to not be able to tell when another girl flirts with him. I don’t know if I should believe him or not. Out of nowhere my boyfriend says, “Try to read that book I gave you quickly, D— wants to read it too, and she said that once I lend her this book she will lend me another book I really want to read.” (I should say this too: D— had a crush on my boyfriend before she knew he was taken, and she is rude to me basically every time we see each other. Ok, now we can proceed.)
Well, I almost lost my mind as I’m sure most of you would have too. First of all, it’s hard to know what to do because you always end up sounding crazy, and being called crazy is the absolute WORST thing to have happen. But sometimes you just have to speak up because otherwise what’s the fucking point.
SHARING BOOKS WITH A FORMER CRUSH IS A BIG NO-NO
So I did. I told him that sharing books back and forth is intimate. It is a sharing of ideas and thoughts, it will spark conversation and inside jokes in the future, and it is something I personally hold as being special. Him doing this with other girls would be pretty bad to begin with, but doing this with a girl who WE KNOW had a crush on him is absolutely egregious.
I also told him this. That making ME read quickly for HER sake is absolutely NOT A THING. I will read it at my own pace, I don’t give A FUCK when SHE wants to read this book, and if she wants to read it sooooo badly then she can go out and fucking buy it herself.
After this remark, my boyfriend says: but if I don’t give her this book she won’t give me the book I really want to read. Then my head exploded. Then I explained that creating little deals is flirty. She was flirting when she set up this little “exchange.” Adults DO NOT DO stupid immature shitty things like this. They just ask for stuff they want. They do not set up little games and obstacles for people to complete. THEY ONLY DO THIS IF THEY ARE FLIRTING.
MY BOYFRIEND IS AN IDIOT, BUT I LOVE HIM AND HIS BS
Well, my boyfriend was shocked to hear all of this, to say the least. He couldn’t believe something that seemed so small could actually be so big. Then he admitted that he probably was ignoring this type of behavior and trying to pretend it didn’t exist so that he didn’t have to cut her off as a friend. Then he also admitted that he probably brought it up in the first place because he could tell there was something fishy going on, he just couldn’t tell what.
Gotta say, I love my boyfriend. Even when he flirts. And that’s no bs.