MISS YOUR FAV SHOW CAUSE YOU AND YOUR BF WERE FIGHTING? NOT A GOOD SIGN
Have you ever missed a movie, a show, a dinner because you and your partner got in an epic fight you couldn’t stop? Yes? You should probably get out of that relationship. It’s definitely happened to me before. I have definitely made plans to go to a movie and then watched the minutes tick by as I fought with my bf in the car about why he’s too afraid to truly commit to me. It feels awful because it feels like there is no way out of it. The only way out is through. And through means fighting instead of going to the movies. It also means the relationship will not last. So don’t miss your fav show and feel miserable.
FRIEND JUST MOVED IN WITH HER BF AND IT’S NOT GOOD
My friend recently missed coming to a show I produced because she and her partner were fighting. They had just moved in together because he had a one bedroom and she had nowhere to go. They had almost broken up right before moving in, but they went along with it anyway even though I can’t imagine a worse time to move in with someone.
OVER A YEAR AND MY FRIEND IS TRAPPED, FIGHTING, LIVING WITH HIM
Honestly, they have been on the rocks ever since I met her a year ago. She never feels safe or secure. She is always wondering if she is the problem, which makes her unable to see that it’s just that their dynamic doesn’t work. At least not for her. He goes off and makes tons of plans with all his friends, he lives where he grew up, so he has a huge support system in place. She, on the other hand, is new here. She just moved a couple years ago and is only now building the relationships she can rely on in the future.
THE ONLY WAY OUT IS OUT, IF SHE FIGURES THAT OUT
The way they interact has made her unhappy from the beginning, but his desire to make it work has kept them together. Now though, I don’t know what is going to happen. They live together, unfortunately. And I only hope she realizes that she is not the problem, that the dynamic is the problem, and just gets out of there.