Breadcrumbing Victim, 5 Tips On Catching that Cheater SOB

Breadcrumbing, so bad, so awful

Breadcrumbing is eveil, defined by Urban Dictionary as “the act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages (ie “breadcrumbs”) in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort,” equates to leading someone on. Don’t do that! Don’t be this duck either!

We’ve all had it happen at some point in our dating life – the drive-by dater and one-night stands. Well before ghosting was given a name, we experienced the drive-by dater who left the random voicemail message, would pop in occasionally to comment on your social media status, or would sporadically send you a private message just to “check in”—but this touch-basing lacked commitment and feelings, yet kept you hanging on with the relationship going nowhere.

By now, you’ve probably heard about the new dating trend breadcrumbing, aka the particularly awful new way to have your emotions toyed with by someone you’re romantically interested in. At this point, a lot of us seem to be agree on the fact that ghosting totally sucks.

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If you’re active in social media circles and in the online dating game, you’ve probably ran into issues with breadcrumbing—the act of sending flirtatious, but non-committal messages (breadcrumbs) that end with you never meeting the person in real life. This new social media and online dating trend is both annoying and frustrating for the person being breadcrumbed. Think of it as the new ghosting. Below are great tips for dealing with breadcrumbing in your own life.

5 Tips for Dealing with Breadcrumbing

Monitor the effort.

An occasional “hi” or brief message says a lot about commitment and interest. Someone wanting to get to know you will be willing to put in the time and will want to spend time with you. Brief “drop-ins” aren’t what good, healthy relationships are based on. If you notice a pattern of someone agreeing to meet up, then backing out with a different excuse, it’s best to get out ASAP.

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Build momentum.

Is the relationship progressing? Are you speaking to each other on a more frequent basis? A new relationship should build in intensity not just be a sporadic mess. Take a step back and realize that the person breadcrumbing you isn’t getting emotionally involved, and therefore you shouldn’t either. Follow this rule and don’t make excuses. This is just one person in a sea of online daters, and if they’re only giving you breadcrumbs when you deserve the whole loaf of bread, it’s time to let go. Be good to yourself.

Make sure that you both are seeking the same type of relationship.

One of you might be unsure of the other’s intentions and are wanting something entirely different. Maybe your “breadcrumber” isn’t interested in anything deeper. Following a trail of breadcrumbs will only keep you from finding a better match. Know the signs, follow these tips, and forge your own trail.

Is it over?

If “breadcrumbing” starts and you have been in a relationship, you need to consider if this is the break-up. Again, don’t make excuses as that may just prolong the pain. With today’s technology being used more and more in our relationships, “breadcrumbing” and “ghosting” are available options for insensitive people to cut you loose. Admit the signs to yourself and move on.

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Self-respect.

Don’t blame yourself and don’t follow the path. You have the right to not pick up the crumbs! Know yourself. These breadcrumbs are just to keep you in their game. Don’t play into it by saying something they want to hear. What kind of relationship do you want? If the communication doesn’t fit your needs, it’s time to move on.