BEFORE BECOMING A MOTHER, CONSIDER THESE TOP THREE OPTIONS FIRST
Women are becoming first-time mothers much later in life than they used to, and no one is surprised.We all see it. It’s not surprising to anyone. But women are becoming mothers MUCH later than they used to. Women are going to college and grad school, they are growing careers, they are making money and travelling. Women are finding meaning in other things before turning to children to fill that need as a mother. Here are all the things you can do in your life before you decide that it’s time to be tied to another human being forever and you can never have your life back and that’s the end of it. And by all, I mean the top three….
HERE ARE THE TOP THREE OPTIONS!
1. You can go to college and learn about something you find incredibly interesting. I studied Art History, which I love, and Italian. Then I became fluent in the language and then was able to study art IN Italy, which is basically the dream. I also studied Child Development and learned a lot about how the brain develops and what we can expect of children at various developmental stages.
2. You can travel a whole bunch. I lived in Italy for four years and traveled all over Europe. I flew one or two hours and got off the plane in places with different languages, cultures, and cuisines. So I learned how to act in a foreign country without being a dumb American, and I learned to appreciate lots of things that were new to me.
3. I have had one career that I then cut short to start a new career. So I was a bilingual preschool teacher and nanny going back to school for Developmental Psychology. Now I am a producer of theatre in NYC. But I would never have been able to move around so much or explore my true professional desires had I gotten hitched and had a kid in my 20s.
I have done a lot of things in my life, and I am still not a mother. I look forward to the moment when I will become one, but I am pleased with all the time I have been able to devote to other things first.