DUMBASS SEXPERT SAYS YOU NEED CONSENT BEFORE CHANGING A DIAPER
This is so stupid I’m actually kind of furious. Deanne Carson is a so-called sex expert. But she seems to be expanding her area of expertise into other realms. Carson was on ABC News recently and voiced some ideas that many people aren’t reacting too well to. You can count me in their number. Carson has muddied some serious child rearing waters with an idea called a “culture of consent.” She said that parents need to ask their kids for permission before they change their diapers, pull-ups, whatever. I consent to the understanding that our culture is seriously stupid sometimes. Parents need consent to change a diaper? WTF?
DIAPERS ARE AN ISSUE OF HYGIENE, NOT SEX OR CONSENT
But it’s not just that the idea is completely fucking stupid. It’s that her understanding of child rearing is so utterly lacking. Has this woman ever changed a diaper in her life? It’s not about dialogue, not about culture. It’s about basic hygiene for little human beings. Carson thinks of herself as an author, speaker and a sexuality educator. So why the hell is she weighing in on diapers? What the hell does that have to do with consent? Carson also thinks that this culture of consent needs to start at birth. That sounds all well and dandy, but what the hell does it mean?
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SEX EXPERT JUMPS INTO BASIC CHILD REARING, BUT ALL WRONG
It’s Carson’s idea, but even she seems confused when trying to flesh it out. To start with, she thinks parents should ask their infant kids questions like, ‘I’m going to change your nappy now, is that okay?” No! That’s not ok! You. Change. The. Diaper. End of Story. But not for Carson. She continued with more, “Of course a baby is not going to respond ‘yes mum, that is awesome, I’d love to have my nappy changed.’ But if you leave a space and wait for body language and wait to make eye contact then you are letting that child know that their response matters.” Um, no. Well, yes. But no.
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Teaching our kids pretty much everything about life is important. But notions of consent and changing diapers don’t seem relatable. But for Carson, this is all about preventing child sexual assault. That’s laudable, but makes no sense when it comes to changing diapers. Carson has experienced some serious criticism on social media. I’m still thinking about doing the same myself. But Carson has equated criticism of her stupid ideas to negating “the voices of these brave survivors of sexual abuse.”
So if it wasn’t already stupid before, it’s even more so after that. Some sex expert. She seems bent on making waves.