YOUR FRIENDS WARNED YOU, BUT YOU DIDN’T LISTEN
This is the final time you told yourself. You are tired of his indecision, lack of commitment and general douchebag-ness. Your friends warned you he was bad news, but you didn’t listen because you thought you could Mother Theresa him from a Neanderthal back to a Homo Sapien. Well Charles Darwin, you have learned your lesson and dumped him for good. Now you have to rebuild your sanity and self-esteem from scratch. No fear, here a 7 tips to help you in picking yourself up and getting your mind, body and soul ready for Round two of the Dating Games.
STRESS RELEASE THROUGH EXERCISE
Exercise can be great for you physically and mentally. It provides a stress release,keeps your body healthy and helps your body release endorphins, which increase your feelings of overall well-being. Research the internet about the positive effects of exercise to relieve stress, and find resources for getting started with an activity that suits you. (Hint: Pets make great workout buddies!)
UNCONVENTIONAL HOBBIES RELIVE STRESS
Having some “down time” is important, and hobbies can provide a nice distraction from stress and help you stay ‘in the moment,’ which is also a great way to relieve tension. Drawing and gardening are great stress relievers, but just about anything you enjoy can work. There are many unconventional stress relievers, like adult coloring books, that can provide some fun and distraction from stress.
PAMPER YOUR OUTSIDE TO IMPROVE INTERNAL STATE BEFORE DATING
Taking care of your body on the outside—with a spa treatment, for example, can work wonders for your internal state. Don’t overlook the importance of pampering yourself on a regular basis. It can help you feel great about yourself and feel ready to take on the next round of Bumble dating.
SHARP MINDS SLAY CHALLENGES AND WORRY
If you maintain the attitude that stress is a challenge—rather than a threat, you are better able to handle it. By keeping your mind sharp, you are more equipped to solve the problems and take on the “challenges” that life presents. You may want to dive into learning more about a subject that fascinates you. School may have been stressful, once you don’t have to worry about grades, learning becomes a way to focus and sharpen your mind. Games like crossword puzzles, Sudoku, and trivia challenges can be fun to play and a way to relax when you are feeling stress.
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS CHANGE THOUGHT PATTERNS
Much of what you experience in life can feel more stressful or less so depending on your point of view. Looking at things from an optimistic frame of mind can not only decrease your stress level but bring you more success in life and more. You can even change ingrained negative thought patterns to more positive ones by using positive affirmations.
PROCESS YOUR FEELINGS TO FIND POTENTIAL SOLUTIONS
Keeping your emotions bottled up may lead to an emotional explosion or a late night Haagen Daz binge. It’s generally healthier to listen to your feelings, process them, and try to understand them. Consider them ‘messengers’ that tell you when something is not right with your world. A great way to process emotions is the act of journaling. When you write about your feelings, and potential solutions to your problems, you can reduce stress in your life and even see some health benefits.
PRAYER AND MEDITATION NURTURE YOUR SOUL
Research shows that a lifestyle including religion or spirituality is generally a healthier lifestyle for dating singles. Many people, especially seniors, use prayer as a major stress reliever and strategy for emotional health. You can use prayer to enhance your spiritual side, or use meditation of you don’t feel comfortable with prayer. Spiritual practice is deeply personal, and whatever your practice, it should nurture your soul.