DEPRESSING FRIENDS NEED TO JUST STOP BEING A DOWNER
We all have friends who can’t stop talking about the end of the world. How do we stop them from ruining our nights? I have a friend who is a completely lovely person. She is smart and funny and a hoot to be around. She cooks great food and loves to have all of us over to her apartment, which has an incredibly beautiful backyard (for New York). I love going over to her house to shoot the shit and eat great food, but sometimes I forget about the ranting. It’s just such a depressing downer.
CALM RANTING THAT JUST GOES ON AND ON AND ON
It’s not even bad ranting, it’s a very controlled and well-informed form of ranting. But it happens all the same, and once it starts it becomes exceedingly difficult to reign in. At first you go along with it. Yeah, Trump is the worst, yeah being a woman sucks right now and always. Because you think that you can satiate the need to complain for your friend. But you have forgotten that that is not a possibility.
IT’S DEPRESSING BEING SOMEONE’S CATHARTIC LIGHTNING ROD
In the end, much discussion is had. Most of it from one side. All of it preaching to the choir. It’s all completely true, everything she says. But you leave her beautiful apartment/backyard setup a little sadder, a little defeated, a little depressed. What happened? You were feeling so good just a few hours before. Well, what happened is that you stepped inside the mind of someone who is constantly worried. And they rubbed off on you.
MAYBE WHEN IT COMES TO DEPRESSING FRIENDS, YOU JUST HAVE TO BE A FATALIST
Oh well, what can you do. You still love your friend. But you do think that maybe she should look around at the great place she lives in and at least take solace in the fact that, when the world ends, she will at least have a sweet dog and a lot of rooms to live in while outside the world is on fire or underwater or in space?